Ngaben: Emotion and Restraint in a Balinese Heart

Himself - Nyoman:
The process of the ceremony is first we dig out the bones. Once we pull out the bones, the soul can rise. We pray [over the bones] for three days. We then bring them back to the graveyard. We wrap the bones to transport them. Then we carry them to the graveyard to burn.

Himself - Nyoman:
I tried to hold it in and not be sad, but I was not able to. I always imagine it. I imagine my father's good face. And I am very sad. I was not able to make my father happy while he was still alive... I try very hard to be resolute. I can only pray that God will accept my father according to how he lived.