Midsommar2019

Dani:
[on the phone] It’s just in his tone - you can hear it. It’s like he’s trying to work up the nerve to say something and I just keep staving it off.

Girlfriend:
So don’t stave him off. Be direct! Confront him!

Dani:
Well - what if I scared him? I’m always roping him into my family crap...I’m always leaning on him! I tell him everything! I even called him today in tears because my sister sent me another scary email. What if I’m scaring him off?

Girlfriend:
Oh - how do you rope him in?That’s what he’s there for! What did your sister write?

Dani:
Oh - just some ominous bullshit! She does it all the time! It’s torture, and I’ve been completely leaning on him for support! What if I overwhelmed him and now he thinks I have too much baggage?

Girlfriend:
Well, if that’s the case, then good riddance! Right?

Dani:
No! Not if I went too far! What if I leaned too heavily?

Girlfriend:
You didn’t! He should be there when you need him.

Dani:
But what if I need him too often? If it becomes a chore?

Girlfriend:
Then he's not the right guy. Because it shouldn't ever be a chore. Would it be a chore if he leaned on you?

Dani:
But he never asks for anything from me! I've never even seen him cry! So I'm the only one leaning!

Girlfriend:
Or the only one opening up! The only one making yourself vulnerable. That's intimacy.